As much as I cannot understand INXS being involved in a reality TV show, and am appalled by the thought, I think it's natural that Marty is curious about Michael Hutchence's death.

This forum has a policy of keeping Bob's personal life 'out-of-bounds', which to a large extent I agree with.  At the same time, the specific subject involving the tragedies of Michael, Paula, Tiger Lily, Bob and all those affected, is one that a lot of forum members are also naturally curious about.

I am not advocating the discussion of this in the Forum, but I do believe Marty (and possibly others) shouldn't be turned away with a "we don't talk about that here" message, fullstop. Perhaps other forum members can suggest other sources regarding this subject, such as the book by a close friend of Paula's (I think) that I irritatingly can't remember the name of (SORRY!).

It is certainly true that there was a lot of suspicion and blame of Bob re Michael's death. In fact, STILL in Australia, the "trashy magazines" (disgustingly) portray Bob as someone at fault in their periodical 'updates' of Tiger Lily.

Yet there never has been ANY substantiation of ANY accussations against Bob. Rumours and innuendo, yes, but absolutely nothing in fact.

Regarding Michael's death, "death by misadventure" is far more accurate than "suicide".  Although it seems that few people can actually talk about this in public, Michael's death was almost certainly a result of his practice of 'auto asphyxiation' going dreadfully wrong.  Used to enhance sexual pleasure, this behaviour is inherently dangerous, as it involves the person being virtually asphyxiated but able to stop at a point before real asphyxiation occurs. The practice is not as uncommon as it would seem, but there are many deaths resulting from it - whether these are stated as so or not.

The coroner's report would give the details of how Michael was found, together with other information.  A link between Bob and Michael's death simply doesn't exist.  Whether the argument you cite occurred or not is probably incidental, given the circumstances of Michael's  death.

Unfortunately, the scenario of Michael's death being suicide (and therefore Bob being in some way involved, no matter how tenuous) is much neater and more acceptable than Michael engaging in behaviour of high risk, associated with sex, where the line was crossed.

I encourage Marty to pursue his curiosity, and hope some sources come to light. Any personal information regarding Bob won't appear in this forum; he is fully entitled to chose what he wants, or otherwise, to be made public.

Just one more comment: as much as Michael Hutchence's death may make you curious, make sure you try some of his life - INXS, with Michael on lead vocals, was one fantastic band with some unforgettable songs.

PS I really hope I don't get into trouble with this post!!

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This forum has a policy of keeping Bob's personal life 'out-of-bounds', which to a large extent I agree with.  At the same time, the specific subject involving the tragedies of Michael, Paula, Tiger Lily, Bob and all those affected, is one that a lot of forum members are also naturally curious about. I am not advocating the discussion of this in the Forum, but I do believe Marty (and possibly others) shouldn't be turned away with a "we don't talk about that here" message, fullstop.  PS I really hope I don't get into trouble with this post!!

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Oddly enough, this subject isn't out of bounds.

I think there should be respect for Geldof's personal life, but a lot of this is in the public domain, so it can be discussed.  The only thing to be careful is not to write anything that could be libellous, such as unsubstantited rumours/gossip and making them out to be fact.

I'm amazed it too so long for anyone to post on this.  You are a very respectful bunch.

PS Tina/Ian may have different boundaries, if so they can state what would be acceptable.

Issues of custody and access can be very problematic for lots of people, leading to heated arguments between the parents and parent's new partners frequently. I should know. My parents parted when I was twelve and there was major conflict, made worse by the fact I lived with my Dad in a different country (thousands of miles away) from my mother.

That one such argument would lead the partner of an involved parent to commit suicide is the implication here. As Julia has said, that would be to assume Michael had actually committed suicide, which even Paula Yates thought highly unlikely. Didn't she campaign for that death by misadventure verdict?

People do irrational things when they've taken a lot of drugs and alcohol, and that that was the case the night Michael Hutchence died is fact.  

A sad loss for his partner, child and bandmates for sure.

its a shame